Love in adolescence a hot topic in the lives of young men and women .. Is it permissible or rejected ? ! .. Is it true love or a temporary feelings ? And what to say to the sons and daughters at that stage of the reality of our experience as parents in life? What is the role of family responsibility towards the young girl ? This is what we learn through the following :
First: the teen is that stage that begins with reaching young man or woman age commissioning legitimate , which is known when the young start wet dreams , and when the girl Descent menstrual blood " menstrual cycle " , and extends this stage for a few years , in which he spoke rapid changes in the body of the young man and the girl , marked the end of childhood and youth , and the start of young adulthood and a bully , and the stage of female maturity when the girl , and this is accompanied by a change in the body and features , other changes in the psychological aspects and emotional , formed after the character young man or woman in life , and are therefore difficult stage , and the most important features the speed of anxiety and turmoil the psychological tension , anger, and perhaps rebel against the way of life and raise the banner of rebellion in some situations against the decisions of the father or mother , and perhaps the owner color of extreme shyness and love of isolation and a general sense of loss of self-confidence and melting personal , and perhaps the owner lunging permanent to express opinions or views , and thus frequent errors and problems and trouble .. This stage is characterized also love the experience and the abolition of the voice of reason , more or less , and being misled by passion , so hardly young man or woman sees only his opinion , is not convinced , but his point of view , are not endorsed by only supported , and hated at that stage advice and guidance , and on the level of faith may the young man rushes to get close to God a lot fasting and worship at the mosques and read the Koran , and soon languish , and weaken his resolve , and feel like a hypocrite and narrowing of the constants of his mind , and it becomes in the most need for tranquility and reassurance psychological and emotional .
- Preference innate to the opposite sex :
And accompany this stage - adolescence - an innate natural tendencies to the opposite sex .. Pftadth young man dreamed that graduating from this stress and these conflicts surrounding it , and make it a whole new world free from all the complexities and problems .. Idealism and dreams of her pictures pink and happiness that does not Hikhaltha sadness or pain or lying or hypocrisy .. The dream of the girl as well as Balvars who snatches to the world of fun and happiness and compassion and love , away from the constraints of family and controls the mother and father and the problems of reality .. The emotions here are in full swing , do not mind nor the wisdom nor realistic , and circulating young girls and love stories and love and adoration , while they are still in the age of flowers students or students at the secondary level , and possibly earlier , and you hear that this tortured Alshad , and that insomnia Aldhany , and those lost thrill life after leaving the beloved splitter, this want to get rid of her life .. And spreads to talk about mad love and adoration and anguish and sorrow ! ! .
Then quickly fade Almhbobh these emotions , these feelings and weaken inflamed little by little, especially if we start with our minds turn to our hearts , and all of us thought more realistically and honestly .. he asked himself : What is the end of it all? ! .
Is marriage and building a family and complete the journey of life? Is there any evidence of that, or the suffering and loss of time and effort ? If successful young man or woman to reach a real answer and realistic , and helped himself to implement the findings , he could bypass this stage and looked at his life and his future in a more serious and realistic , and set himself a goal sought to be achieved and preoccupied with it and put it on the ladder of priorities ..
I say to my sons and daughters in this critical age : that true love , is the one that starts with acceptance and satisfaction at the engagement , and grows and grows and deepens after marriage .. This is not love fantasy each party seeks it to its image and Tdhuik his words , but the love of the ten and a normal life and go into life good and bad within the same boat , and therefore true love and lasting and continuous , which is not affected by the position of the viewer or the behavior of a temporary in certain circumstances .
Hence the need to know the young man and the girl the fact the phase of , and identifies itself the target associated Bgaith in the life and future , Fajtahed it and give him all his energy until it passes this stage in peace , and with the least amount of trouble, there is no doubt that the sit- rope of God and concern for his obedience and satisfaction and use The mind is useful leads to psychological and emotional stability .
And also say that the duty of the mother and father is taking care of the children in adolescence , particularly with her daughter, mother and father with his son , and the relationship is here the basis of compassion and love , friendship and closeness , understanding and persuasion .. It is not the orders implementing or decisions obeyed , mother take her daughter girlfriend affectionate advising her , revealing her - the reality of expertise and experience and read - what leads to persuasion and implementation of opinion proper - and disappears completely the principle of violent and reprimands , not to mention the psychological abuse or physical abuse , and the father as well as approaching of his son and listen to him and discussed calmly and largeness .. The duty of the mother should not panic when they tell her daughter the secret of secrets , but they must show wisdom and is discussed and advising them , as well as the duty of the father , young person or the girl that originates in the atmosphere naturally dominated by love and compassion and debate the Pacific and persuasion are better able to cope with any problem and walk the straight path .. God save our young people from all evil
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