Errors committed by parents with adolescent children

The process of education is not easy at all, and be more difficult in the case of a teenage son, because they need a way of dealing very special, so it is parents often in some errors that may lead teenager to get away with them more and more and being confined within his own world filled with comrades of the same age share his Tjarba may harm him. Among the most prominent of these mistakes :

Take orders and lectures instead of discussing children

Parents want their children to grow up and look beyond adolescence quickly until they become adults Ti of responsibility and they can make major life decisions. Despite this goal, the beautiful and noble, forget the father and mother to be achieved needs to give some space of freedom for the children to think and express their views, and continue to always throw commands are not debatable and boring lectures that do not graduate from being a narrative of their experiences earlier in life without taking into account the difference in the age and time.

Not to say that children do not need the guidance and followup at this stage, but quite the opposite is true, but they also need to understand some freedom to make their own decisions after some objectively and thoroughly discussed with the parents. In other words do not become negative, Jr. recipient of ideas and orders, but participates in the decision-making that comes with his life.

Some things are obvious to ignore

Teenagers may be moving at some point in time to sleep late and absenteeism from school or university, as well as back home in times of exceeding the agreed date with the parents, as well as making new friends parents did not know anything about them.

If considered to parents that all the above is “ just behaviors performed by most children in this age group,” This is a big mistake can not be remedied if the silence and ignore for a long time behaviors of children Garasueh, or in other words, the parents Advinan their heads in the sand and Igmadan eyes for signs clearly indicate the presence of an error in the education and followup needs to be remedied quickly because tolerated lead to disastrous results.

And is not required here is the emotion on children and Tanifam, but approach them and discuss with them and learn more about the details of their lives indirectly and non- repellent, because of violence and cruelty Sakablan aggressive behavior and stiff resistance on the part of children.

Not to pursue the implementation of the agreed rules

We said that the imposition of orders and rules without discussed and agreed upon with the children is the wrong result in the construction of the sons of stubbornness stick obedience yourselfers. But it is also wrong to get to an appropriate agreement that satisfies all parties, and we are on the basis of identifying the principles and rules of conduct and behavior of children and punishment set in the case of noncompliance, and then neglect the followup to the commitment of the children of these agreed rules and ignore the application of the penalties provided for.

Exaggeration in determining the expected number of sons

Whenever you select a target for your children, do not exaggerate, but Mark is in their reach and their ability to deliver. If you know that one of the children suffering from learning difficulties for one of the subjects, do not take in a dressing-down and scream in his face if he gets poor marks in this article, but accept it quietly and listened to a complaint son or daughter and the difficulties that would prevent him from achieving excellence, then painstakingly to overcome obstacles and provide the means of success for the children, and by assisting them in studying foreign or buy books by the appropriate explanation or any other solution in your ability to find work.

Focus on the mistakes and achievements ignored

Add to mistake parents as well as a focus on errors and defects sons and Maajrihm out in front of others at every opportunity and punish them as well, while not care often encourage young and lift their spirits and praise any success or achievement hearty, and this of course affects the children of frustration and makes the right thing in their eyes, even by mistake, understanding in all cases will be reproached.

By Majid Bahaj