Growth among all of the changes include the relationship of the child inside and outside . These changes include the construction jobs , and we must distinguish here between growth and development . Automatic and natural growth , the evolution Vmkzb , and be in the skills , abilities and experiences.
Growth in the language of grown grows, any increased and grew . The growth in scientific terminology series of changes in a row that starts the first configuration of the fetus , and is moving towards the completion of the gradual maturation .
Clear growth through the increase of quantity and quality that appear through the maturity structure of the physical, cognitive child; This increase is dealing with different aspects , in the field of physical increased height and weight , and increasing the size of internal organs such as the heart , stomach and lungs , and in the field of linguistic increasing number of vocabulary that are known to the child , and used , and increases its ability to think and understand, and the extent of his interest in expanding , and increasing memory capacity and range. Growth tends to form builders , and the object is moving the child slowly to achieve systemic proportions in relationships. Imagine If the child adjective Alaihamah beat it , it shrinks with the progress of the growth rate of linguistic expression , and less emotional volatility ratios and replaced by emotional stability .
These differences and changes in the ratios make the distance between the adult and the child how to walk , and emphasizes the wrong idea of a man regarded as the child is minimized .
A child is born is equipped with some of the behaviors of reactive gender-related , and the impact of growth factor bloom new recipes were not completed until birth Kelsafat instinctive initial appearance of teeth , and the level of cognitive emergence defended the poll , and the appearance of being able to identify and solve problems and the ability to abstract , and in the emotional is the stability of the Layout ethical and moral .
Psychological separation
Begins with the separation of the baby from his mother , and his presence independent of the moment of his birth . The lack of awareness of the child alone at this stage is a fundamental problem , and in order to grow such consciousness must become the child relates to his mother first all-important bond of love college. Constitute the mother of the child early encounters with his world. Those meetings, which will give him the social consciousness , and we can talk about the child as a person when he is aware of himself as an individual separate just as the existence of any social . And later to become his people and his own should isolate itself at least in part to protect his mother , and shows the point of view of its own. And a ship space that must be forced herself to get out of the influence of gravity to do the trek , it is the children should be moved outside the orbit of the object around his mother's security and strongly rush to find its own place in this world .
Is the first year of a child's life is critical , and that for the growth of the child attached to his mother . During this year shows almost all children with strong links with the mother or of the place. Human beings are characterized childhood incapable of long term can not survive without continuous protection . And a link to the mother of the child is a matter of vital importance , as the newborn child depends on the presence of exciting and beloved mother , not only for survival but for the physical integrity of the psychological as well. Therefore, the development of the bond of love the child links it to his mother , and his mother connects to it.
Process attached to the child by his mother
Reacts most of the children in about a month of age almost with their mothers in a manner different from their interaction with other people , and most scientists think that this is a result of the nutritional status of children , and the idea here is that the experience of breastfeeding when the baby be a first experience in the process of social participation , and gives him the opportunity to learn to love existence with others , give it as a basis for building social relationships addition, a link to help the mother and freedom from hunger , cold and pain occurs within the core emotional needs of the child to the mother so that they are more pushed his physical needs of Statistics . In other words, the love child learns early that kind of love is false wanting out of it to get some spoils .
Shows the world of social ethics "Tour Leonard Lorenz " that chicks geese hunting instinctively the first large body moving watching , and that at a critical stage of her life after hatching process directly , and manifestations of interest in the payment process that the behavior of attachment may appear without receiving person ingests food or any rewarding .
At about the fourth month of age exhibits the child is generally the way of friendly itself toward all people , and that as he had done previously , but he responds to his mother in a more pronounced , he is smiling and Enagi her , and traced his eyes more than they do so with others , and in spite of its ability to distinguishable at this age there is no ligament with it exhibits a way that retains the convergence intimate with her in particular , that Rabat , which shows the true meaning of the comment , and it seems the behavior of attachment in the best picture with the baby crying and trying to catch up with his mother when they leave the room in which there is .
As can be seen this behavior also in the inability of any object for appeased or calm him down .
It has been shown to some researchers that a third of children who Tnolm study showing the behavior of attachment and protest the moderate and hard as a result of the separation in the sixth month , while showed the rest of the children of this behavior in the ninth month , it turns out to these researchers that the attachment to the first moving towards the mother and moving often very rare around some other familiar figures . Showed a quarter of children attached to other members of the family during the first month following the formation of the first emotional connection they have . And attached to all children except a few of them to another person , at least , " the father usually " When I was the age of a year and a half while attached mostly a greater number of other " older children usually ," and progressing attachments ins quickly when some of the children , seems like a double automatically with the first comment has observed , the study results showed that the number of people who regard their child , related to the number of individuals who interact with them, as is generally found that individuals who provide a huge impact for the child even though they are not interested in the basic depend on their needs , such as the need , for example, organic , they become attached to the baby room for them.
This is not surprising that children show instances of shame or fear in the presence of strangers, and after a few weeks of the first real attachment to form . The phase consisting where Talqat child the first critical phase , it could lead differentiate emotional bonds or intervention to serious repercussions , although the presence of one or more persons in addition to the child during the first eighteen months of his life is very important , and that means a constant presence for one person at least provides care for the rich and the excitement of a child , which takes the form of vision, hearing and touch. Children generally are not able by the end of the third year on the sense of security in places strange , as befell other figures well-known place of Mother Kaloqarb or parameters , in this age only child starts in the formation of independent figures and isolated part , and begin the actual work and the separation of the child psychological first for the mother.
The difference between the sexes in the growth of independence
Although the girls learn to serve themselves at about the same age who learns that the boys , but they are much more likely to show the behavior of the attachment of the boys , with a greater need to display same physical attachment to their parents , this difference may be due to the behavior that society expects of each sex . Altoakla behavior is acceptable for girls in many societies , the young men must assert their independence from the two destinations physical and emotional . The early break between the child and his mother is the one who happens prematurely no doubt cause a rupture of the child's emotional health of the child's behavior and that of a seven-year change according to the type of care he received daily during infancy . There are two types of early experience are linked to the behavior of concern Almtbdi in late childhood . The first type is reflected from this experience in the day-care is illiteracy , where the other members instead of mother to child care , and that before the end of the second year of his life . The second type of this experience Vigesd in the instability of the person who sponsored the child's daily , it means someone's child for a certain period and then be replaced by another for a further period . It was found that these children are characterized by frequent requests and hung up strongly , as they are more prone to separation anxiety than children who received care at the hands of their mothers in the homes of their families . This pattern is evident concern when girls are particularly the young men are found often the opposite trend , with at least outwardly seem less nervous and a sense of guilt , but they Atzmon instead quickly arousal , aggression, lack of confidence and indifference punishment .
Results separation wrong on children
Studies have shown that dealt with the behavior of healthy children who have been separated from their parents in the second or third year of age , showed that these children tend to show behavior unpredictable , In the first phase stage protest responds to the child detachable output often put in the nursery school in tears and anger , and requests the return of his mother , and all hope of success in return , this stage may last several days later becomes quieter , but it is clear that the continued preoccupation with his mother missing and longing to return . In most cases, the real hopes wither her return , and enters a new phase is the phase of despair , and then alternating phases , Hope becomes desperate , and desperate to become a renewed hope that there will be a significant change in the end it seems to him like a child forgets his mother . So when you see it again freezes in place in a surprising way , does not show interest in them do not like it apart , and this phase is called phase separation. And sees " Bowlby ," it is likely that turns the separation of long-term , which runs to more than six months to the process of isolation, permanent , and that if this happened separation at the stage of formation social child , and believe this view, particularly in the absence of easing the shock of separation , and that care Tough carried out by someone who is a center for the activities of the child. And sees " Bowlby " What happens to the child during the separation is similar to what happens to the adult in the event of mourning , it lived experience "the death of the parents " and freezes them , it was noted that many of the children who suffer from experiences like this are characterized by isolation and lack of response to social life . That is why we see the qualities that children who lived in social institutions are weak emotional year in which embody hyperactivity , inability to concentrate, and the need for love and affection and tenderness , and lack of self-confidence , and a low level of cognitive ability on the achievement .
Fouling
The reason for the bad habits due to excessive attention to the child. In other words, the interest in excess spoil the child , and gives him a chance to control his or her parents , and there are two trends Atnazaaan parents with bad luck either compromising tolerance where stationed child about the same , and becomes imperious obstinate unloved , and either excessive restraint and domination and punishment, Vngdo child's personality negative submissive characterized comply excessive . Although mothers Almtsultat and most restrictive than others think that he must sometimes leave the children in the case of crying . And they see that all children are inclined to stubbornness and malice , and must address this very firmly , and insist that mothers not to allow the child to addiction auctioneer , and the absence of any leniency in the application of the rules and regulations prevailing that may cause addiction , and mothers think Almtsamhat from another party that the child does not cry for nothing , Vpkaah not in vain , especially in the early stages of his life.
So they see the necessity of sparing the child cry and not feel happy as much as possible , in order to his physical and psychological , and sees " John Anuson " The philosophy behind this trend believes that baby crying evidence of attachment , and that it is difficult to the emergence of a link between crying and bad behavior or corruption , the evidence suggests that it is impossible to spoil a baby during the first year of his life , but rarely in neglect , but this could sow the seeds of corruption after this age , and through the trends of the parents in the upbringing .
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