Ten errors we commit our children 's right that we have, and we do not realize that we are made of , while pushing these kids for them throughout their lives.
A child is born Kelsafhh white is not known from worldly matters nothing and does not have the moments old first only the ability to scream and search for tenderness , while starts parents journey of education and all of us hopes to create healthy children physically and psychologically , but unfortunately often make mistakes during this difficult journey , because of ignorance and sometimes because of despair at other times , and quickly raise the white flag accusing the innocent child in the printing of defects can not be changed .
Dr. Ehab Eid , a professor of public health and behavioral medicine at Ain Shams University , and head of the behavior modification status of child care at the Institute of Childhood Studies , Ain Shams University , begins to monitor the trip , saying : ' There are genetic factors inherited by the child from the parents and breed him and control in the printing , and we are probabilistic that say that they do not represent more than 40 % of all behaviors , and this in spite of it can be tamed and refined while the rest of the 60 % it is the behavior of the child acquires from the surrounding environment , and especially the parents , and thus we get to the important point , which is that all the behaviors of the human rely mainly on way of his upbringing and upbringing . There are five key mistakes we commit in the upbringing of our children and affect their behavior throughout their lives . '
The first error :
Says expert medical wireline is pampering and explains : ' pampering excess , which is followed by some parents are motivated by love and look this case is clearly in the first child or a male child after a number of females , which is handled exceptionally pampering and also in the case of parental separation , where wants each party to attract the child's feelings to him by meeting all his demands , and here show the child usually in very, very bad , a ' play on the difference ' , which is aware of the child that the difference between his parents is the best position for him, and starts at the hypocrisy of all of them for more of material things .
And sometimes follows this method in order to compensate the parents of the child for certain things , such as the absence of the father for long periods and replace educational role -kind gifts for the baby.
So we must point out that meet all the requests of the child and his bestowal of gifts with or without harm him more than help him , a child who used to get everything without offering contrast up to the stage of asceticism and lose a sense of admiration , and grow has a temperament like greed and selfishness arises person is unable to giving and always willing to get things free of charge ' .
The second error
Says Dr. Ehab Eid , a lack of ability to listen to others ' complaining parents that their children do not listen to them , but they do not realize that they are from the outset did not sleep in them good listening , and dealing with a child for the purpose of his attention to the modern requires that we make our conversation fun as change the tone of voice or imitating the voices of animals brought to his attention and Taouidh to listen , as it should to turn parents a way to listening to their children , in the case of dealing with the modern child with something of indifference or boycott will start in dealing the same way towards them and towards others later , and help us without that we are in the upbringing of a person does not listen only to the voice of himself does not respect the opinions of others . '
The third error :
It is bullying and intimidation , and often resorted to the parents under the weight of need in a certain position in order to remove a child from doing so , and have often using objects fairy or even specific individuals deal with the child in the family , such as a father or uncle or anyone else , this method and the says Dr. Ihab holiday ' comes very negative results on the child , and the first result in the near term is suffering nightmares and night sometimes bedwetting . It also works on the strained relationship between the child and his parents, because the relationship is based on fear is an unhealthy relationship , and you should be child's relationship with his parents is based on love and respect , not intimidation and threats , which results in the case of loss of confidence and credibility in the parents when advancing the child 's age a bit what , and begin to grasp the facts and that all that was used by the parents of methods to intimidate him , but what are the things fake does not exist ' .
Fourth error :
Create a child very stubborn , and although scientists point out that the stubbornness of the child is one of the indicators of intelligence , and is often a factor genetic large proportion of it, and thus a child have a ready prior to the acquisition of the habit finish we also say Dr. Ihab : ' Child 's years -old the first have a sense that the whole universe revolves in its orbit and is geared to serve him a sense of normal when all children in this age of the work to reduce this by avoiding pampering excess and meet all the demands of the child to convey to him the message that not all of what he wants and desire is available, and that the universe does not belong to him alone, and you should know that usually stubbornness when the baby as much as it represents the inconvenience to parents are of good habits in the case of used properly , a child stubborn man studiously wants to reach its objectives , and the rationalization of the habit should parents use his ability to persevere in the end the business Katmam story or a game and should not be given anything before the completion of what he was doing , and you should not treat him as if Band make a list of contraband more than increase our allowances and do not say a word . '
Fifth mistake :
Create a child nervous and violent , violence has become a phenomenon in society and even in the movies cartoon for children , so it became natural to find the children come to acts of violent in the deal , and what we have to do , and he says a professor of behavioral medicine : ' do as much control over what beholds the child in the media , we must control our nerves and ways we deal with the child or with others in front of him , so pass on a message to the child that the sound and the violence is not higher than ways of dealing between humans ' .
Mistakes educational five complemented by five errors healthy we commit to the right of our children complete system error in Education , Dr. Talaat Salem , professor of pediatrics and neonatal -Azhar University and a member of the Egyptian Society for the health and safety of the child , puts us a list of the errors of the five , saying : ' start the first problems of child health error behavioral mother that you get used to breastfeed a child , he slept a way that lead to a child infections frequent in the ear as a result of leakage of milk to put wrong in the breast , and repeat it turns the problem of the crisis of chronic health suffering from pain of the child and cried so much without knowing the parents are the reason , and can cause later in the real problem for the hearing ability of the child ' .
The second error
There behavior closer to the usually we all have seen by Dr. Talaat Salem harm directly to the child , a second error says ' usually shaking continuing for children affect badly on the brain, and sometimes leads to injury by excessive movement and very nervous may affect the child for the rest of his age, and often Iatadha child , and thus increase abuse suffered by the child . '
The third error :
Parents start trying to rush the child to move to the stage of the movement and he says : ' usually put the child on Mashaya at an early age and for long periods for the purpose of training to walk , but unfortunately this method comes counterproductive in the case of excessive and greatly harm the pelvic muscles . It must be noted here that it would prefer not to put the baby on Mashaya for more than two hours a day to avoid negative effects on the child . '
Fourth error :
Begins with weaning and offer parents the child of food , says Dr. Talaat Salem : ' At this stage, usually food served is appropriate for the child and is unaware of many real needs of the important elements , such as iron and calcium , as well as being fed and other meals cause direct harm to him , such as beverages invasive children which cause injury fragility and weak bones and affect the growth and lead to infection , which may Blaine feet up to the stage of surgical intervention to fix it ' .
Error V
It starts in the subsequent period, and where the child habits of food , and contributes to the parents fully in the formation of the child , explains Dr. Talaat saying ' accustom the child to eat candy and food that contain high-calorie meals and takeaway , and ignore the provision of fruit and vegetables , and thus took to ignore later makes it susceptible to obesity , a disease that is difficult to get rid of them , especially when accustomed to this the wrong way in nutrition and obesity remains a ghost endured throughout his life . '
Frames task malnutrition
UNICEF reported in its latest report on the diseases of malnutrition that about a third of children in developing countries suffer from malnutrition , and that about 150 million children worldwide suffer from underweight for their age .
There are about 175 million children are stunted in height resulting from malnutrition .
The report said that the shortage of minerals and elements of the task is one of the most important causes of chronic diseases , for example :
Lack of vitamin A leads to blindness and a weakened immune system .
Iodine deficiency causes of morbidity in severe mental and physical .
Iron deficiency leads to anemia, life-threatening and low productivity .
Deficiencies in folic acid when pregnant mother cause the birth of a child minus growth , is likely to catch defects in the spine .
It should be noted that malnutrition is considered responsible for 54% of deaths of children under five years worldwide .
2 - violence against children
According to the World Health Organization has estimated that the rate of violence against children by about 40 million children under 15 years at the level of the world suffer from abuse and violence and require more social welfare .
The study and survey of several states that, for example
India says about 36 % of the mothers surveyed they have used several methods to discipline their children , ranging from beatings and kicking and even put chili in the mouth of their children.
In Egypt, the survey showed that about 37 % of the children had been beaten by their parents , and nearly 25% have suffered injuries ranging from fainting , fractures and sometimes injuries caused the deficit completely, as shown by the results of this study in the United States , about 5 % of parents have used and violent means and terrorism against children , such as beating , kicking and even the threat of using tools such as knife and gun.
3 - Obesity in Children
According to the American Academy of Pediatrics studies have shown that the rate of obesity among children in the United States have increased in the last 30 years more than doubled .
She pointed out that a child is considered obese if his weight has increased to more than 20% from the ideal weight for his age and type of male or female .
And some other statistics indicate that about 15 % of children in the United States are obese and about 25 % of blacks and Hispanic children suffer from excessive weight .
In Britain, according to a study conducted by the Ministry of Health found that about 27.7 % of the children are considered overweight , and 13.3 % overweight .
There are no accurate statistics in the Arab world for obesity in children , but there are some studies conducted in some Arab countries, shows the approximate proportions of the disease , for example, in the United Arab Emirates studies have shown that about 21 % of children between the ages of 7:5 years considered overweight , and about 13 % of the children suffer obesity .
In Egypt, this ratio is estimated at about 25% of the children after the 4 years.
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